Somewhere Along the Way
One of the things I did not expect while writing Getting Back to You was how often I would stop in the middle of a chapter and think, “This is not just about me.”
The more I wrote, the more I realized how many conversations I’ve had over the years that quietly carried the same theme underneath them. It was with different people, living different lives with different circumstances, yet somehow, many of them were describing a similar feeling.
Regardless of whether they could name it or not, it was the same feeling, a quiet sense that something no longer felt fully aligned.
And interestingly, the people expressing it were often the ones who appeared to be doing quite well from the outside. It is true of the most capable, responsible and high performing people.
Individuals, who others depend on. People who built successful businesses, led teams, raised families, carried enormous responsibility and continued showing up for everyone around them.
Yet beneath all of that, there was often this subtle disconnect they could not fully explain. I understood that feeling more than I wanted to admit.
Not because my life was falling apart, but because there were seasons where I became so focused on functioning that I stopped paying attention to whether I still felt connected to myself inside of the life I was building.
And I think that happens more easily than we realize.
We begin to adapt to what is needed rather than what we want. We become stronger, more capable, more efficient and we learn how to push through exhaustion in order to carry pressure well.
Over time, those patterns become normal.
Especially for people who are naturally driven or deeply committed to the people around them. But one of the things I have been reflecting on lately is how easy it is to become so externally focused that you slowly lose awareness of yourself in the process.
This does not happen all at once or in a dramatic way. It is usually gradual and rarely dramatic either. Each time we override our needs, and tune out our inner voice and live more from expectation instead of alignment we widen the disconnect from ourselves a little more.
And because life keeps moving, you barely notice it happening.
When you read my book, it’s going to feel personal. That’s because it was written from lived experience. During a time in my life that called me to pause, look inward, and realign with who I truly was becoming.
I am a business leader, coach, consultant and someone others turn to for clarity and direction. I’ve spent my career helping people navigate growth, change and expansion.
And still, like so many women who lead, I found myself operating from old patterns that I didn’t stop to question. I was doing what I had always done, yet nothing felt the same. I ignored the signs and just pushed through the discomfort, telling myself that it was nothing. Leadership was full of challenges and holding it together was expected. Regardless of what I was feeling, I believed needing support would somehow mean I would lose credibility.
I carried all that responsibility with pride for so long until one day it felt different. And I realized that what I was carrying was quietly costing me more than I was willing to admit.
I didn’t write this book because I have all the answers. I wrote it because I finally slowed down long enough to ask better questions.
Getting Back to You is not about reinventing yourself or walking away from the life you’ve built. It’s about remembering who you are beneath the expectations, the roles, and the pressure to be everything for everyone else. It’s about reconnecting with your values, your energy, and your inner knowing, the parts of you that may have been set aside, but were never gone.
Sometimes the most important changes in our lives do not begin with a dramatic breakthrough. Sometimes they begin with a quiet awareness that something inside of us is asking for more alignment.
And maybe the first step is simply being willing to listen.
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